If we ask you the question, “Who do you love?”, what are the answers that pop up?
Does your mind immediately jump to parents, partners, children, friends, and so on? Does
your list contain that one important person without whom every other relationship
becomes insignificant? Any guesses? The person you are supposed to love first and
foremost is “YOU”.
You might think that sounds selfish. We have all been taught that if we love
someone, we must put them first, irrespective of how we feel. Only if they are happy, can
we be happy. What if we take a different approach? What if we start focusing on our needs
before we are there for others? Even during a flight, for example, the flight attendant says,
“Should the cabin lose pressure, oxygen masks will drop from the overhead area. Before
assisting others, please put the mask over your own mouth and nose.” Similarly, in life, only
when we learn to love and prioritize ourselves, we will be able to spread more love. This
famous quote sums it up well: “Remember to fill your cup because you can’t pour from an
empty cup.”
Even in romantic relationships, we have heard this phrase in multiple movies and
books; “Two halves make a full”. When we enter a relationship with that thought process,
we are already acting out of a void. Instead, if we focus on completing ourselves first, we
will attract a complete partner. Only once we love and accept ourselves just the way we
are, will people around us love and accept us.
Working on oneself to find our completeness is a beautiful journey. Dr. Diplakshmi
helps people by releasing their redundant belief systems and guiding them to find their
authentic self!